Like a drowning woman needs air, I needed a change of direction.
I’d spent the last six months struggling through the fog and discovery of Mr. Scabs’ infidelity. I’d also spent the last six months searching the web for anyone who’d survived such a thing. There was nothing. The internet felt like a sea of happy home remodeling blogs, while everything I knew had fallen apart.
There’s something about trauma that isolates us. I was alone with my thoughts, my unshowered self, and my bag of Oreos.
Then one day, still in my pajamas, I walked out the front door and made my way slowly around the block. Halfway around, I started laughing! Belly chuckling at the insanity of my situation! And when I got home I began to write this weird mixture of laughter, and fear, and sadness. It all rolled out onto my page. Even though I was scared, I pushed the publish button, and this weird mixture became a blog. Not a blog about happy home remodeling, but a blog about navigating my home’s destruction.
It’s always been strange to me that at the very moment I hit publish, ten other women, who share a similar story, hit publish too. Everything aligned. We connected. We cried. We laughed. We were the only ones commenting on each other’s broken home blogs, and we decided to plan a girls-weekend.
So, I gathered enough courage and clean clothes to board an airplane. The weekend with these women was life-changing.
Three days later, I walked back off the plane and into my home with a new sense of certainty. Fear was no longer paralyzing. Anger was turned into fuel for change. Fog turned to clarity. My broken heart was so sweetly validated and cared for. I showered and threw away my bag of Oreos. Everything changed.
Inspired by that girls-weekend more than four years ago, I’ve organized over 15 retreats for women all over the country. Science knows more about how to navigate and grow from crisis and trauma than ever before! Which is so exciting, especially because partnering with Bloom to create our Bloom Retreat brings science and compassion together as we find our path.
Join us September 14-17th at the Bloom Retreat near Heber, UT and commit to giving yourself the space you need to grow.
Trauma comes to us in many different ways, not just infidelity. We can all relate to the desperate need for air and change. No matter how trauma or crisis has come to you, you are welcome in our space of healing and growth.
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